is hanging too good for him?

[lizzylemon]

Sound advice from everyone and I've been where you are in the past so I truly understand and am very impressed with your control.

My suggestion is you hit him where it really hurts - his pride. Next time, don't react in any way, don't respond to txts or anything. When he eventually brings it up (he wont be able to resist after a while) smile, and say sweetly "Well I'm sorry darling but I didn't even notice you weren't here, where you gone for long?"

[bobleponge]

As a bloke who is quite capable of popping to see a mate in a nearby village for a coffee at 10 in the morning and not getting home till the following afternoon, I would plead for clemency for Mr S.
Beer can be a great thing, but sometimes it can be a bit rubbish too.

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[smallblueplanet]

As a bloke who is quite capable of popping to see a mate in a nearby village for a coffee at 10 in the morning and not getting home till the following afternoon, I would plead for clemency for Mr S.
Beer can be a great thing, but sometimes it can be a bit rubbish too.

So because you do it too that's a reason for clemency? Would you really not have told (ex)Mrs Ponge where you were? Doesn't show an awful lot of thought or respect for the other person if you ask me...beer or no beer!

[petal]

He has been norty, make him suffer, play loud music and nag lots - he has obviously been egged on by mates, drunk too much...... hope he has a bad hangover!

[Sprocket*]

At least he didn't come home in such a state that he took all his clothes off his lower half and stood on the front lawn swinging his tackle round and round like Mr S did after a works afternoon of drinking. I only have a small front lawn and the neighbours had a front row seat. He was mortified when the neighbour across commented on it the next morning.
I still take great delight in reminding him about it...

TS I would kill him - or at the very least make him suffer for the next 12 months!

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At least he didn't come home in such a state that he took all his clothes off his lower half and stood on the front lawn swinging his tackle round and round like Mr S did after a works afternoon of drinking. ss commented on it the next morning.

When someone does that I say no thanks I'll smoke my own!

[Rhona]

If Mr R did it, it would be so completely out of character that I'd just be relieved he was ok. I wouldn't mind THAT much either to be honest.

If he's got form though, I'm be miffed. You're being very measured, and a bit of "I'm not angry (yeah right!)...I'm just so disappointed in you" never goes amiss.

Hope he is suitably behaved when he appears!

[di]

brilliant, thanks Flum

You've all helped me to stay very calm and very wise. Revenge will be mine though (starting with no dinner for norty boys).

I may also shrink his new cashmere sweater in the wash.

You can't not feed him.......I seem to remember last year him finding something not so tasty in the fridge?...could you not make another batch?

Andi did this a couple of years ago...although I didn't have the courtesy late night call to let me know he was safe.Strolls in at 7am...me still up worrying myself stupid.After crashing out on a mates sofa for the night,he took himself straight off to bed to sleep off the hangover,leaving me to look after the kiddies with not a winks sleep all night!...have I forgiven him???...........

[its hilly]

Hmm sounds like its a habit at works do's. I would quite calmly set off for a girly day out (with a pal so suspicions cant be waved at you,one who HE knows is trustworthy), telling him it will be a evening finish, then send a text at midnight to say you've both missed the bus/train/coach and are staying in a hotel! If he winges the next day point out that YOU've only done it once not on aregular basis.

[petal]

I have a friend who rewarded her husbands stay out all night behaviour by mixing cat food in with his bolognese. Try it. He won't notice apparently and you can smirk.

[rustylady]

I think I may have some extra baubles for the tree

As in surgically removed ones?

[Alison]

I don't know if a lot of you are joking but a lot of this is really confusing to me. I really don't see the point in nagging, revenge, getting even etc as I think they are all really destructive emotions / actions. If I've got a problem with something OH does then I'll talk to him about it and we move on. If I don't do that and it carries on being a bone of contention then I suffer also and that's not in my interest. If there ever comes the time that we can't sort something in this way then sadly that would be the time when we shouldn't be together but we've never got close to that, thankfully

[lynda66]

I bladdy well hope so too - you deserve it! Big supportive ((((HUGS)))) whatever you decide to.


A call at 2am to him for a lift home would be a good idea too

oh yeah, and throw up in his slippers

[lynda66]

I don't know if a lot of you are joking

joking? moi? .... NEVER