is hanging too good for him?

[snohare]

So, what would you do if your spouse went out for a Xmas lunch with his work, and still isn't home the morning after?

I'd think to myself, do I trust him/her....Remind myself of that when we met, and then try to act appropriately.
Sounds like a drunk man to me..nobody else would be that brave/stupid, surely ? !

[HayleyB]

so oyu can plan all those jobs you've always wanted to have done i suppose....

Yeah right, Mr Sheds is pretty notorious on the vine, and I have a feeling that divorce or death is far more likely

[Incy]

Make him suffer TS. He needs to spend at least a year on the norty step!
And a snowy norty step at that

[bubblewrap]

Two sheds?.......................He could always live in one of them.

[SarzWix]

If he's anything like MrW, when youi sent the 2nd text he'llhave been just drunk enough to be thinking "Grumble, grumble, I'm in charge of myself, and if I want to stay out, I'm not going back cos she says so" etc., etc. And his stupid mates will have been egging him on "Yeah, you tell her, you wear the trousers" and other equally ridiculous BS... I bet the 2am text was sent when he woke up in the corner of some nightclub or something, feeling dodgy, and didn't dare to come home... (Or is that just what happens whenever MrW goes for a Christmas do...?)

We just decided that he would stay over at a mates after the Christmas do in the end, cos I had no desire to go through that BS every year...

Hope that amongst other things, you remind him that you're not his mother, and if he wants to have a 24 hour Christmas do that's his (and his liver's) lookout, and to stop acting like a rebellious teenager...

Either that, or, leave his suitcases on the doorstep...

[dexterdoglancashire]

Aw bless! Yes, I would be mad, but having said that what with all the bad weather we are having, probably a sensible move. I went to Blackpool to pick up Mr DDL last Saturday night after his works do to bring him home to Preston. I only do it once a year. I don't mind, its quite funny listening to him rabbit on when he's had a few - and even better the following morning when he has a hangover - he never has hangovers, that's usually me!

Is Mr TS home yet?

[weekendwellies]

At least he texted you at 2am so you know he is still alive at least. That is more than you could expect from a teenager.
Still, if you had expected him back earlier, you have every right to make him suffer.
Get him to do your chores list through the holidays.
And when he next has a night out without you, let him know that you wont be expecting him home like this time and the door will be locked at 11pm, or whatever your normal lock up time is.

[ginger ninger]

So, what would you do if your spouse went out for a Xmas lunch with his work, and still isn't home the morning after?

I'd be finding a new use for my rolling pin , (psycho theme playing in the background)

[piskieinboots]

Most of SD's 'men only' dos are on camp - they do tend to go on all (or most of the) night, but I don't worry at all because I know where he is.

If he (Mr TS) was really squiffy I would prefer him to get into a hotel rather than try to get back and risk inquiry, mugging, whatever - then he can get the rolling pin treatment on his return home.

Hope he's ok!

[RedThorn]

Is this a regulaur thing or once in a blue moon? If once in a blue moon laugh and just make him feel guilty for not texting you more to let you know he was ok. Texts and phone on is only fair, if on the otherhand serious dog box and stocks with toenail removal(long nosed pliers straight up the centre under nail and open... etc

[lynda66]

it's christmas lol ... if he hadn't said he was booking into a hotel, i'd worry, but as long as i knew he was safe and i trusted him, i'd prefer him staying in a hotel ..... can't be doing with really drunk slobbering when they get home lol .... maybe that's why i'm single

[Nicos]

Cor...just think of the extra Xmas pressie you can nip out and treat yourself to!...that's what I'd do!!! ( new washer/tumble dryer..well- he wasn't there to discuss it with was he????)

[Glutton4...]

Ermmm...

I'm with Lynda on this one. Knowing he's safely in a Hotel and not on a street corner/doorway/worse, is a good thing. That said, if it were me I'd be fuming, but I have too look at it from both sides, as in my 'yoof' I was just as likely to get into the 'can't get home' state as anyone!

I drink at home now - it's safer for everyone and I'm not that bad anymore either

Hopefully he's home safely now, and with a HUGE hangover.

If he isn't - well - hanging's fine...

[Alison]

'well that's funny, because I checked your inbox at 10am and you'd already opened the message'

A lot of this is down to trust and respect. He should have respected you enough to let you know earlier that he wasn't coming home but if it's a one off then I don't see the point in getting excited about it. Also you should be able to trust him enough not to be checking up on him. It's up to you if you want to just let the whole thing pass over and move on or if you think there is something more serious that needs sorting. Either way don't do anything rash

[lynda66]

maybe he told small porkies cos he didn't want a major row just before xmas .... if he did it every week i'd be pissed, but once a year? ... nah tis the season for it lol