Why Do People Join..Then Not Join In?

[FROSTYFRECKLE]

I suppose from the outside the forum could seem intimidating - there are a fair number of gardening gurus and a fairly large number of loonies I can't offer advice, I know what works for me but will it work for anyone else - don't know. I like to be able to come on ask something without having to Google for an answer - as if I was talking to someone in person.

[Littlemouse]

Shyness / Fear of ridicule
All questions mostly answered or found in previous posts so don't feel need to post question again.
Maybe they join but forget they've joined, didn't get in habit of using forum - didn't find it was what they wanted.
Some people prefer 'read-only' mode.

I just looked at my profile and see that I joined the raised bed social group but forgotten completely about it!

[Flummery]

I joined initially, as a newbie, for the info, and keep reading as I love all the banter and chat and humour, as well as all the gardening tips. I rarely join in the banter (though I would like to), as i'm ill and can only use the computer for short bursts. Even when i do write, I'm likely to be abrupt - not intended, I'm just trying to get the words out before my energy goes.

While I'm here - I'd like to say thanks - I'm confined to barracks most of the time, and been bedbound a lot of the summer - so my great growing plans have gone to pot, but I guess my passionate enthusiasm well outstrips my energy- (I knew that really but didn't like to admit it) a lesson learnt. It's all positive and grist to the mill though , as it's all learning and enjoyable and I'm set for next year with a realistic plan of what to aim for. You know, it's great to come on here and be amongst folks with a similar passion for growing even if I can't join in as I'd like to.

so thanks -
you're a lovely bunch of folks and I've had so many laughs. You've all pepped up my summer no end.

tulip

Ah, that's nice! So we don't scare everyone off then!

[HeyWayne]

Ah, that's nice! So we don't scare everyone off then!

You make it sound like you're trying to ma...

[Flummery]

It's the way I tell 'em!

[Two_Sheds]

As the question Say's "Why do people join, then not join in".

I have joined a cycling forum (a bit bossy), a sewing forum (a bit 'wedding dressy'), another gardening forum (a bit hard-to-navigate, and no nice photos) and a parrot forum (not enough posters, and a bit cliquey), and a money saving forum (some really, really nasty people on there ).
I only use those ^ if I need a question answered, not to chat.

I always come back to the Vine, cos you're my type of people.

[becslb]

as a browser rather than a contributer.. I like to read all messages as well as look for advice but feel a bit shy about posting (I am like that in real life though as well!)... I'll try and post a bit more often

[zazen999]

as a browser rather than a contributer.. I like to read all messages as well as look for advice but feel a bit shy about posting (I am like that in real life though as well!)... I'll try and post a bit more often

If you could please - that would be great

It saves my cynicism for those that really deserve it.

[Glutton4...]

I found my way here thanks to Google, I loitered a bit, then joined because I wanted to post about a subject. I got snapped at by someone early on, and thought 'Oops, what've I done/said' But I soon realised that not everything is taken as it is written, and let's face it, some folk have different beliefs and ideas, so I took it on the chin, and kept posting.

Much to my family's surprise I even met up with some other nutters, err sorry, Grapes at Wisley - yes, me, the most unsociable bird on the planet!

They'll have to drag me out of here screaming now LOL!

[janeyo]

I like to dip in and out of all the threads that apply or appleal. Some days I am here a lot, other times not for a week o so, bu for some strange reason I keep coming back!

I remember the first time I posted I was terrified!
But Aunty Flum and Snadger sorted me out - in the nicest way possible



Even my oH says this is a lovely forum and he can't comprehend how we all talk about everything else as well as gardens, as this doesn't happen on his one. He often has a non-garden question and says 'can you ask for me on your garden board'. lol

[Rhona]

Mr R doesn't 'get' chatting on a forum at all. He thinks you're all imaginary. I only frequent one other forum which is to do with niche/boutique perfumes, which I'm a bit partial to. I'm not a real regular, and the people are from all over the world, but they're all friendly. Imaginary, but friendly.

[piskieinboots]

I can't remember my first post and as I've gabbled for the Olympics I'm not about to try and find it

[SarzWix]

I loitered for about 6 months before I joined in properly, but I'm a bit afeared of strange people (as in unknown, rather than weird ) in real life so it was nice to be able to get familiar with the forum before jumping in Anyway, it's my second home now, and I know that I'll always get help, support, and fun here.
It's so great to be able to give back a bit now, you wouldn't believe it

[RedThorn]

just looked at the amount that I've posted and I ain't even been here a year! didn't beat Lynda but blooming 'eck!

Met some great peeps here and had a real good laugh! Had brilliant advice and like G4 got my head bitten off for one of my early posts and almost packed it in then, but hey ho keep coming back! Not even at home and logging in! from here I've met some nutters and some real nice people ( those that I've met, know which category you each fit in )

[Scunny Zeb]

the number of times I will write a reply, then delete instead of posting.

My problem is my sense of humour, I take the 'P' out of everything. Not sarcastic (well not that often) more of a deliberate misunderstanding to try and get a raise out of people.
But not knowing you personally or if you would take it in the spirit intended, I choose to delete rather than risk offending.