How good are you at taking compliments?

[zazen999]

I love the way the tena logo is like a puddle, with a trail coming from one side.

[Rhona]

Am I the only person who had to Google 'tena'?

[Hazel at the Hill]

Good grief - is it that hard to say 'thank you - you are kind!' if someone acknowledges that you've done a good job/made an effort/look nice etc etc.

That's all it needs, no agreeing or disagreeing.

As part of trying to spread a little happiness, I try to pay a sincere compliment to someone each day. I won't bother if all it does is make people cringe!

[piskieinboots]

Am I the only person who had to Google 'tena'?

Probably

[Pumpkin Becki]

As part of trying to spread a little happiness, I try to pay a sincere compliment to someone each day. I won't bother if all it does is make people cringe!

Oh dear Hazel, no, don't stop. I pay people compliments all the time, I guess for me its a problem of self esteem, who knows, one day I may get the hint

[HeyWayne]

Good grief - is it that hard to say 'thank you - you are kind!' if someone acknowledges that you've done a good job/made an effort/look nice etc etc.

That's all it needs, no agreeing or disagreeing.

As part of trying to spread a little happiness, I try to pay a sincere compliment to someone each day. I won't bother if all it does is make people cringe!

Clearly for some people Hazel, it is. I guess conditioning has it's part to play - some people are more accustomed to receiving and accepting compliments, others less so, which therefore takes some getting used to.

The same way that some people take criticism better than others.

Doesn't mean you should stop doing either.

[di]

Good grief - is it that hard to say 'thank you - you are kind!' if someone acknowledges that you've done a good job/made an effort/look nice etc etc.

For some...yep it's bloody hard!!!

[ginger ninger]

Really not very good, especially of my O.H, there's usually an ulterior motive behind it when i get one of him...if you know what i mean??

[Rhona]

Probably

I never don't get no compliments on my intellijunce.

[Hazel at the Hill]

Good grief - is it that hard to say 'thank you - you are kind!'

Oh dear Hazel, no, don't stop. I pay people compliments all the time, I guess for me its a problem of self esteem, who knows, one day I may get the hint

Clearly for some people Hazel, it is.

For some...yep it's bloody hard!!!

Then today's lesson is
1) listen to compliment
2) say 'thank you' and smile
3) say nothing else - or you will be tempted to justify/dispute/belittle the compliment
4)scuttle off if you must, and go very red, but also feel a glow of satisfaction - the compliment is supposed to make you FEEL GOOD

Do we have to start a 'sincere compliments thread' just to get everyone used to the idea?

[bobleponge]

Rhona, there are 2 of us, I didnt know what it was either.

I'm rubbish at taking them, self-deprecation would be my middle name if I was posh enough to have a hyphenated one.

To be fair, I am also pretty rubbish at giving them as well.

[Pumpkin Becki]

Can you break us in gently with a 'kind comments' thread first?

[FionaH]

Then today's lesson is
1) listen to compliment
2) say 'thank you' and smile
3) say nothing else - or you will be tempted to justify/dispute/belittle the compliment
4)scuttle off if you must, and go very red, but also feel a glow of satisfaction - the compliment is supposed to make you FEEL GOOD

Abso flamin lutely. I am trying to just say thankyou, but its hard

[Hazel at the Hill]

To be fair, I am also pretty rubbish at giving them as well.

Next lesson will be 'how to give an compliment!'

It's an advanced lesson - because it must be sincere (or you just look a bit creepy) and depending on the people round you, it can be quite difficult to see something of merit in others!

If in doubt (girls) you can always say 'oh - I do like your earrings/necklace/shoes' to other girls because you probably do, and you chaps can always do the lads compliment to other lads of 'nice one!' in response to almost anything.

[Hazel at the Hill]

Can you break us in gently with a 'kind comments' thread first?

Now you see, that has just made me laugh!

Abso flamin lutely. I am trying to just say thankyou, but its hard

Bite tongue, walk away or change subject. Remember the compliment and cherish it for later.

Giving compliments is a Good Thing as it makes you look for the positive & makes the world a happier place.

Mind you, there is still a place for a bloody good bitch too!