Twenty-Eight Years.....

[hollychap]

congratulations enjoy

[bramble]

Happy anniversay Jules. I am one of the"married much much longer"brigade and I can say it just gets better with age. Like a vintage wine>

[ladylottie]

Happy Anniversary Jules! Here's to many many more.

[marchogaeth]

Do you suddenly wake up and have a moment when you do the maths? I remember suddenly realising I'd been married more than half my life! That feels like ages ago now. It always seems a bit odd talking about it when failures/mortality can cause so much pain but we've been together 33 years in a couple of months so from one old stager to another keep enjoying your time together.

[julesapple]

When the BH was taken suddenly ill (ruptured gallbladder) a few years ago and we nearly lost him, it really hit home just how long we've been together, the sh*t we've been through and dealt with together and how much we depend on each other. When we got married I was five months away from being 18, and although I knew what I wanted, and fought with my family to get it, I was just a kid, so now I'm in my mid-forties I've been with the BH for two thirds of my life, and all of my adult life. It's a long time but feels like five minutes sometimes! There are moments when we still feel like two young kids, it's still exciting.

So, I'd like to thumb my nose to all those aunties and ratty relatives who said they'd give us three months tops and to all those nasty pieces who said it was a shotgun wedding..........you were all wrong! Ner ner ner ner

Jules

[WendyC]

Congratulations!
My husband and I went to school together. He was my first boyfriend, now been married 22 years. We worked out a while ago he is now older than his dad was when we started going out.

[di]

Happy Anniversary, have you done anything special? x

[Currysniffa]

Congratulations and a happy anniversary to you both! 10 years for us this year .

[julesapple]

We didn't really celebrate. I made a special dinner, but BH wasn't up to eating. He missed his step yesterday and wrenched his back so he was tanked up on Diazepam to control the spasms and he was a bit of a spaceman all night. He'll be up for pancakes tonight though!

Jules

[donnakebab]

Crepe Suzette that's what you need to celebrate. There's nothing quite as exciting, where food is concerned, than to set fire to it with lashings of alcohol. Always impresses me anyway.

37 years this October. OMG I need to lie down.

[RedThorn]

congrats to both of you, long may it last

[Alison]

We'll be 14 years this May and were together about 4 years before that. OH would have married earlier but I wasn't ready, think he got me in a moment of weakness in the end . Only joking, wouldn't change anything but it did make me shudder when you said you were married at 18, you were lucky to meet a good guy that early in life, can't see I'd have lasted 2 weeks with the guy I was with at that age! Think there is an element of luck really, when you mean people that you're wanting the same thing at the same time etc etc and then you then if you both make an effort you should be fine. Always find it funny when people congratulate us as they often seem to have that look of surprise that anybody stays together and surely that's how it should be?

[mudpies]

Lovely heartwarming stories. Just 2 years for me and Mr M.Pies. Never thought being married was that important to me, but somehow it changes things, and makes me really happy. Congrats Jules. Enjoy x

[julesapple]

We'll be 14 years this May and were together about 4 years before that. OH would have married earlier but I wasn't ready, think he got me in a moment of weakness in the end . Only joking, wouldn't change anything but it did make me shudder when you said you were married at 18, you were lucky to meet a good guy that early in life, can't see I'd have lasted 2 weeks with the guy I was with at that age! Think there is an element of luck really, when you mean people that you're wanting the same thing at the same time etc etc and then you then if you both make an effort you should be fine. Always find it funny when people congratulate us as they often seem to have that look of surprise that anybody stays together and surely that's how it should be?

The BH and I come from remarkably similar backgrounds, both Forces children, both posted to the same places (we've been told that we met several times throughout childhood, but neither of us can recollect the meetings) and we have the same interests in most things (still can't share his interest in politics, daft action movies or Sci-Fi) we both love to read, cook etc etc,. I think one of the major attractions for me was (still is) the fact that the BH, faced with no matter what, is as cool as a cucumber. He doesn't do shouting, panic or hysterics, he has no temper whatsoever (very frustrating when I'm trying to have an argument and he just will not rise to it) and as I grew up with two men who looked like giant toddlers at the merest hint of something not going their way, this is hugely refreshing and reassuring. I know that he doesn't have all the answers to every problem, but his calmness makes everything seem so much easier to deal with. So I think, when we got together, I was going through a tough time with my father, and the BH understood. He told me that I could do things for myself, I didn't need permission, I was independent and intelligent. Corny as it sounds, he believed in me then and he still does even when I don't. We just know each other, I guess.

Jules

[Alison]

We just know each other, I guess.

I know what you mean, we usually understand and know how the other one would react / think about things before we do ourselves . If anything happened to us then I'm pretty sure I couldn't be bothered to go through all that annoying getting to know each other bit again and things would have to be VERY bad to make me walk away from that and start again, contentment is a very good place to be.