Time to ask for help...

[Jeanied]

Ooops - I'm guilty of that BT - I pack 5 innards into the 6th so I have the collection ready for sowing time next year! All lined up on the radiator - I know where to find them now.

[Florence Fennel]

I once carried out that threat Kirsty when my boys were about 10 and 11. Their room was an absolute tip, so I picked it all up off the floor and their beds and threw it all out of the window. They retrieved their stuff and the room was tidy for quite a while - well, at least a week!

[binley100]

Ooops - I'm guilty of that BT - I pack 5 innards into the 6th so I have the collection ready for sowing time next year! All lined up on the radiator - I know where to find them now.

Mine are on the window sill.........

LOL Flo I once hoovered the floor on a threat and then sneakily emptied the bag to find the polly pockets .....

[Two_Sheds]

I'm putting out lights etc before bed, cups down to kitchen, ashtray emptied, couch covers straightened etc,

Mr TS won't even draw the curtains (night or morning) unless I specifically ask him to. Let alone turn off TV, computer, take cups to the kitchen ...

He's had 43 years of having someone else pick up for him, he ain't going to change now

[kirsty b]

Oh....I forgot to add, I'm a nice laid back Libra!!!!

[binley100]

I'm Libra as well and pretty laid back over most things...........I do have the odd paddy now again but most of the time I just stomp around muttering to myself........

[shirlthegirl43]

Thanks again folks, you have cheered me up and put me back on track. Off to find the bullwhip to crack at these kids - the kitchen isn't clean enough

[kirsty b]

Mr TS won't even draw the curtains (night or morning) unless I specifically ask him to. Let alone turn off TV, computer, take cups to the kitchen ...

He's had 43 years of having someone else pick up for him, he ain't going to change now

My OH was brought up by a super-efficient mum and her house is always immaculate, but welcoming too

He truly doesn't notice the things that drive me mad, but I have started my course and its full time, as well as time spent studying at home too and I don't want to spend my (now reduced) spare time blitzing. Which is why I now do a little every day instead of leaving it like I used to.

If I want him to do something, I have to leave a list or be very specific in what I ask, as well as give a time that I want it done by.....have to stop and think sometimes as to whether I am his wife or his mother

[Two_Sheds]

I ....have to stop and think sometimes as to whether I am his wife or his mother

That's my big dilemma. Since moving in together 3 yrs ago I have been pushed into the "mother" role

PLEASE PLEASE MOTHERS! Teach your sons how to fend for themselves

[binley100]

P'haps it ought to be compulsory for them to live on their own for a couple of years .....

[shirlthegirl43]

PLEASE PLEASE MOTHERS! Teach your sons how to fend for themselves

I am trying! Younger son can cook mince and tatties and the elder one makes a mean bacon buttie - will that do (obviously no good for veggies sorry T_S)

[binley100]

aah but do they clean up after them , that is the important thing

[shirlthegirl43]

aah but do they clean up after them , that is the important thing

not terribly good at that yet but I am working harder on that now

[binley100]

So then can you work on that with mine please.........

[shirlthegirl43]

Well I have the big knobbly stick now - going to start on the sharpened nails tomorrow.