Wrong to feel this way??

[zazen999]

Karma chuck, karma.

He might get his money but he may lose his daughter. What an ar$e.

[Seahorse]

Extaordinary.

I'm so sorry your daughter has to deal with this nonsense as well as the trauma of the accident itself. I'd be tempted to get �300 in 1 penny pieces and give him those, just to highlight his petty meaness.

[lizzylemon]

Not wrong to feel the way you do at all. Although it's very hurtful I'm sure your daughter understands that there kind and generous people in life and then there people like her dad. She probably already knows what he's like so it might not be that much of a surprise he wants the money back

[Seamus]

what a donkey he is, enough said .....

[binley100]

He doesn't deserve a daughter.

[selfraising]

I love the idea of paying the money in 1p coins, that would really infuriate him

[kirsty b]

Good heavens what an unpleasant tight wad the man is

I suggest your daughter demands the receipt for the recovery from her father before she reimburses him so that she can a) check that he isn't swindling her and b) can reclaim the expense should the Romanian lorry driver ever be brought to book.

Thats a good idea Eco-chic.
My Dad is not well off, but I know if anything happened to me or my sis, he would do whatever he could to help out and not ask for it back. (he kept bailing me out with petrol money not that long ago when I was up and down the M11 to my sister's several times a week)
I just can't believe the front of the man - words fail me.
How is she doing now?
Perhaps she say to him 'ok, choose, money or me?' If he chooses money over his daughter, he's not worth having as a dad. (only my opinion, but this has got me riled) If he wants the money for recovery that badly, Seahorse's idea about doing it with penny pieces is spot on!

[selfraising]

Thats a good idea Eco-chic.
My Dad is not well off, but I know if anything happened to me or my sis, he would do whatever he could to help out and not ask for it back. (he kept bailing me out with petrol money not that long ago when I was up and down the M11 to my sister's several times a week)
I just can't believe the front of the man - words fail me.
How is she doing now?
Perhaps she say to him 'ok, choose, money or me?' If he chooses money over his daughter, he's not worth having as a dad. (only my opinion, but this has got me riled) If he wants the money for recovery that badly, Seahorse's idea about doing it with penny pieces is spot on!

We have the receipt but he keeps tabs on everything money wise so I very much doubt he will have forgotten the figure. I too would do anything for my girls and if I went without myself to do it.

She's fine now but still gets worried driving on the motorways. She was stuck down here for a while cos of the bad weather and her dad couldn't understand why she was reluctant to drive, he called her a wuss. She won't risk giving him that option because she needs his financial support for uni and we can't afford to help much.

[FionaH]

He called her a wuss???!

Ok I am sitting on my hands now!

[kirsty b]

He's a prize .......(insert whatever word appropriate)

I really hope this can be resolved, but he sounds the kind of guy who can't be shamed into leaving it alone. Wish I could say something constructive, but I'm just staggered at his attitude.

I know what I'd say - but thats as a 30 something with a bit more assertiveness than I ever had at your daughter's age. Give her a big hug from me.

[selfraising]

I think to keep the peace, she will have to pay up Kirsty. I struggle to get my head round it too, which is why I wanted other peeps opinions, well I wouldn't have even thought of asking for the money but hey that's me.

[ginger ninger]

What an ARROGENT PIECE OF DOG POO he is, and to be quite honest I can under stand why you got shut of him in the first place, what kind of parent would chose money over the well being of his child, he wants to be great full she's still with you, It could have been sooo different, if he earns that much money surely he can write it off at tax deductable, and regarding being a WUSS for not driving, only a fool would suggest driving in the weather conditions we've just been experiencing....Send the pig to me, I'd love to show him how much a swine he's been. Big Hugs SR. xxx. ARRRRRRRR, nasty, nasty little man.

[dexterdoglancashire]

What can I say Ange? Im flabbergasted! Our thoughts are with you and Sam.
Bernie, Drew and Dexy

[FROSTYFRECKLE]

Well I was going suggest giving back the money in pennies so how about some unusual foreign currency with an exchange rate that would make him a millionaire over there (lots and lots of coins) I have no words to describe your ex that are printable. Give him the money and I hope he chokes on it.

[miffy]

I WAS married to someone just like him.
When my son was little we were really short of money as i had just gone into teaching and with child care costs whilst i trained things were tight, so much so i didn't have any new clothes for a few years. It got to a point where i had to borrow money to buy him nappies even. You get the picture.

However the Ex still found the money to go out with his mates and started going on how he needed a computer to do his work on at home, not just any old pc no a 'state of the art one'. Un be known to me who was struggling to make ends meet, feed and clothe our son and who had just started a new career he ordered a be spoke computer costing over �2,500 and he could not see that there was anything wrong with that!

You have every right to feel so upset and hurt as does your daughter. If he had anything about him he would have got her a new car, paid for fully comp insurance for her and made sure she was back on the road in a really safe new car.

He sounds such a piece of work. I know where you are coming from entirely, when eventually i split from the ex he just walked out the door and did not contribute any money to the up keep of the home, he was at the time the major bread winner. When i told him i was struggling even to feed and clother our son his retort was 'how much food can the little git eat!'

So my answer was not to eat myself and feed my son.

It makes me so angry and sad to hear stories like this and all i can say to you is that your daughter has all she needs as she has a mum who has shown her that family and her welfare mean more than money.

Forget him he isn't worth fretting over and let him wait for his money until your daughter is ready to pay him back, or better still pay him back �5 a month thats what i would do!
Take care both of you.x