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  • #16
    I may well tease you Beth .... but there again I tease everyone!! The beauty of places like the Vine is that know one knows you or what you look like or anything so you just get treated like the rest.

    You would never guess I'm 6ft 6" rippling muscles & a real heart throb would you ...... good cos I ain't

    stick at it & enjoy yourself thats the main thing.

    Lifes too short to be serious
    ntg
    Never be afraid to try something new.
    Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark.
    A large group of professionals built the Titanic
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    • #17
      Howdy SooBeth,

      I've been partially deaf for 8 years. About 3 months ago I got my first hearing aid...the device! Its not much fun is it, being deaf? I'm not in the same position as you but I've got an idea. I get untold amount of grief for having a satalite dish strapped to my head, but WE ARE better than that (You'd think that Grown-ups would know better would'nt you?). Being able to hear has changed my life (and Yo's!!) for the better and at the end of the day you have to ask yourself one or two simple questions:

      1: Does not being able to hear stop you doing anything?
      2: Does it stop you enjoying the simple pleasures of Gardening?
      3: Does it stop you savouring the taste of a home brewed glass of Cider (I know you're 9, but beleive me - in a few years You'll love it! For now, Yo suggests a spiced apple cordial)?

      You're a brave Gal and thats for sure. We have the hand that we are dealt and we do what we can. Thats all that any of us can hope for. Its a joy to see someone so young taking an interest in something like gardening. Believe me I know how tempting the Playstation can be, but there is something so undeniably satisfying about putting hand to earth, is'nt there? And when you can let that work (with a few simple steps) convert that loving touch to a fine Ale, Cider, Wine, Sunday Lunch AND a sense of hope and wellbeing for yourself & the Human Race, then you have to proud of yourself. These are skills that have almost gone. You are helping to safeguard the knowledge and for that I thank You.

      Yours, Bob.
      Yo an' Bob
      Walk lightly on the earth
      take only what you need
      give all you can
      and your produce will be bountifull

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      • #18
        alison,
        i'm sure soobeth will correct me, but as i understand it the implant is an electronic device connected to the nerves in the ear to bypass the "defunct" ear, is usually only implanted in the very young as people who have been living with total deafness wouldnt cope so well with a whole new sense. it is a smallish pad that sits under the skin behind the ear and is embedded in the skull. It improves their hearing abillity but as with all technology is not the same as being a hearing person, but it does aid speech and communication.

        suea
        I dont have personal experience of being implanted and none of the deaf people i know have, but technology has come a long way, i know if the technology had been available all the deaf people i know would have said yes!
        my sign language is very poor, my dad lip reads, and was never taught sign.-
        nor we're we, living as a hearing person in a household of an almost totally deaf father and a partially deaf mother i know how much frustration and angst can be caused by simply not taking the time or having the patience to "listen" properly to the other family members. ( and it was usually the deaf people who lost patience with each other because of the effort involved!)
        in my opinion the people who want to "safeguard" the totally deaf community from help is like the luddites, its like saying if your partially sighted you should'nt wear glasses just to be able to fit in.
        my father now has hearing aids! I had my fist conversation with him at the age of 21. my mother can't wear a hearing aid, she has had alomst a 3rd of her skull removed from behind her ear because of infection. but she has hearing in one ear.
        the differance bobs hearing aid made to our relationship is immence, i no longer have to bite my tongue, and he no longer has to put up with me asking him to repeat what i've said to make sure he heard me. (its easier to say yes than have somthing repeated to you over and over.)
        our neighbours two year old now has two hearing aids, before any of us realised he was deaf we thought he was being abused, he cried constantly,
        we now know it was just his frustration at being unable to communicate.
        he has had his hearing aids for two months, he now comes up to the lottie with me and makes very convinsing chuck and duck noises as well as being able to communicate to us humans.

        we havn't heard him cry for the last 6 weeks.

        we commend you soobeth for wanting to help the hearing umougst us understand the deaf, contrary to popular belief shouting at a deaf person wont help. just like shouting in english wont help a french person understand you.

        soobeth youre an inspiration to all of us, your hobby is helping to protect the future of our planet and your willingness to help people understand your positon is very forsighted in one so young, i think if you wanted to you could be primeminister or a famous rainbow warrior or anthing you put your mind too.

        go soobeth.
        dont let anything stand in your way!
        (not that you would for a second)

        also good on your folks for making the difficult decision to give you the implant and good on your dad for supporting your hobby.

        you will go a long way girl!

        Yolanda.
        Yo an' Bob
        Walk lightly on the earth
        take only what you need
        give all you can
        and your produce will be bountifull

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        • #19
          Originally posted by rustylady View Post
          Beth, it makes no difference to me. You have absolutely no need to be embarrassed. If there's anything we can do to help, I'm sure we all will. On the vine I hope we are all equal - we all have an interest in common, but we are all different. I hope we are all friends
          Beth, I'm just pleased that you have decided to join us. no problems! DDL
          Bernie aka DDL

          Appreciate the little things in life because one day you will realise they are the big things

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          • #20
            My late sister was profoundly deaf and had a Hearing Dog, the dog and his liveried jacket explained to people why she did not react to their voices, saving explanations or being thought rude.

            However she always reckoned she took longer to do things with the dog, because of all the attention he attracted and through having to give explanations of how a Hearing Dog worked.



            Funniest thing she ever told us about deafness and the dog was shortly after getting him and having to go to the loo with the door open.

            So the dog could find her if the doorbell or phone rang and tell her.



            Great things computers though aren't they Beth, the world is opened up for all. Stephen Hawking can talk, you can talk to so many people here.

            My professional body the British Computer Society has a specialist group dedicated to adapting computers to aid people with all sorts of disabilities.
            Always thank people who have helped you immediately, as they may not be around to thank later.
            Visit my blog at http://podsplot.blogspot.com/ - Updated 18th October 2009
            I support http://www.hearingdogs.org.uk/

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            • #21
              Hey! Just a thought, but they say if you lose a sense - e.g. hearing - that the other senses are heightened. That must mean the veg you grow tastes better than any of ours!!!

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              • #22
                Oh gosh - what to say after all those wonderful comments
                Soobeth- I was already impressed by your comments on the Vine before I even knew your age!! You clearly have a natural talent that you should continue to nurture.

                As to hearing loss- I worked as a physio for over 25 years and found it very frustrating that I had difficulty communicating with my deaf/partially hearing patients. I decided that as a health-care person that it was up to me to learn sign language for the non lip reading patients ( partially hearing people of my age were forced to sit on their hands as children and learn to lip-read).
                The only way for me to take a proper medical history ( and therefore a safe one) was up to me and once I passed level 1 sign language another world opened up for me.

                I understand that there is still a lot of contraversy as to whether or not have an implant,but I'm sure it must make life easier for you.
                Bits of me don't work too well either...and as I get older, even more bit are playing up!! I think it's glasses soon!

                As to teasing...I think you gather that the only people we tease here are Nick ( because he deserves it) and LJ ( cos she loves it!!)

                Keep up the good work!!
                "Nicos, Queen of Gooooogle" and... GYO's own Miss Marple

                Location....Normandy France

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                • #23
                  What do you mean - I love it?? Well maybe I do!!!
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                  • #24
                    Soobeth,I was really sad to see you were worried anyone would think any less of you because you are deaf!Why should it matter to anyone.I know alot of bullying goes on if some people think you are 'different'(I hope if you do get bullied you would be able to tell someone)I doubt it would make any difference to anyone chatting to you here Two of my grownup children are hard of hearing and I know they get very frustrated at times especially as their hearing is boarderline for their age and cant get any help unless their hearing gets worse! They both like to 'chat' online as it is easier than normal conversations I think you are a brave girl,and I hope you will give all us oldies plenty of gardening tips

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                    • #25
                      Originally posted by Nicos View Post
                      As to teasing...I think you gather that the only people we tease here are Nick ( because he deserves it) and LJ ( cos she loves it!!)
                      And you have no doubt noticed that they give as good as they get!!
                      Bright Blessings
                      Earthbabe

                      If at first you don't succeed, open a bottle of wine.

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                      • #26
                        Hi soobeth
                        To go online and tell people that you are deaf takes a lot of courage .Especially when you know that there are around 1500 members in the forum and who knows how many guests looking in.That takes guts .I'm not sure that I could have done it and if we are all honest a lot of others wouldn't have done it either.
                        Personally to me it makes no difference wether someone has a disability or not its not about what you have or havent its about whats inside that matters.
                        To much pressure is put on people these days to conform to a set of ideas that somebody somewhere thinks is cool ,with it or they think is in fashion this week.
                        My advice for what its worth is -

                        Enjoy life - nobody has the right to made you feel that you are of less importance than them cos you have as much right to your opinions as anyone else.

                        Opinions - Remember that is all they are - somebody elses ideas .

                        Rules - Made to be broken ,secret is dont get caught

                        Life is not a dress rehersal you only get one chance at it.


                        And lastly - Those who laugh at your dreams have most probably abandoned their own.
                        There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore and who always will. Don't worry about people from your past, there's a reason why they didn't make it in your future.

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                        • #27
                          Hi Soobeth, I stand by what I said before but have to say, while I agree with much of what Beefy said, I don't agree that telling people you are deaf takes courage. It is ABSOLUTELY nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. I'm sure it does present practical difficulties for you, but an intelligent girl like you will find ways to overcome it.

                          I don't know if you sign, but I can . I learned as a chlld (long story, as we are all hearing) and passed the skill on to my hearing children. Many times the skill has been invaluable.

                          Be all you can be Soobeth. It doesn't come down to hearing.

                          From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs.

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                          • #28
                            I remember reading an article in a magazine about a very basic kind of signing that can be used for pre-speaking age children before vocal chords are sufficiently developed to form words. Obviously this isn't the same thing as we've been talking about above but I found it really interesting, there are so many ways we can communicate.

                            Some of us live in the past, always talking about back then. Some of us live in the future, always planning what we are going to do. And, then there are those, who neither look behind or ahead, but just enjoy the moment of right now.

                            Which one are you and is it how you want to be?

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                            • #29
                              Hi Beth, sorry for the late reply to this...

                              I think it's really cool you felt that you wanted to share this with us, it's a lovely thought that you feel comfortable enough to share that with us.

                              Saying that, as everyone says, a computer is a great equalizer and if you hadn't said anythign none of us would have been any the wiser, or thought any differently of you as we know you as the name SooBeth and the fab input you put to the vine. I'd say I try to give as little info about myself as possible but it never seems to wrk that way and in my first few posts here I divuldged that I can't ride a bike for love nor money and used to get chronic wind while doing karate!!


                              All I'm trying to say... badly... is that there's no need to appologise for who you are (I certainly don't ) and you shouldn't feel bad about not mentioning it before as it's entirely up to you if you want to tell people here nor not...
                              Shortie

                              "There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children; one of these is roots, the other wings" - Hodding Carter

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                              • #30
                                Hi Soobeth - I think everyone has already said what I would want to say too. Just super having you here on the Grapevine and hearing about your love of gardening! Keep posting!
                                Last edited by JennieAtkinson; 22-11-2006, 12:34 PM.
                                ~
                                Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn't be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn't know that so it goes on flying anyway.
                                ~ Mary Kay Ash

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