Feeling Low

[RedThorn]

*passes a chainsaw to Hayley to start hacking that darned elephant*

Hugs and know there's lotsa grapes who's thoughts are with you.

Must admit that I am also glad to see the back of last year, however like you this didn't bounce back but flopped. On the bright side at least I'm having the bad bit now instead of later in the year! (That's what I'm telling myself all the time)

It sometimes helps to look back and look at all the little things that you HAVE accomplished and all the little victories that you won. Helps to put things in perspective. Easier said than done I know but hey we're all only human.

I studied for nine years part time and gave up 2 subjects away from completion(due to one of those real sh*t time in my life). I regret it to this day. I cannot go back and finish as they have changed the way the credits work etc. So take a small breather to knock off a couple of lumps from that elephant to help boost yourself and keep reminding yourself why you started studing in the first place and try to recapture some of that passion you had in the beginning.

If life never had troughs, how can we ever truely appreciate the peaks and joys

[FionaH]

The trouble with elephants is the look so BIG!
I was given some good suggestions. They were to not try and fix my entire life in one day, to look at what I need to do today and do it. The stuff I cant do anything about, leave. And to trust God to look after the rest, (thats the tricky bit in my opinion!)
Big hugs hon. It will get better, thats the nature of life, to change

[Flummery]

Can't add much to the above Hayley, except to say that it's nearly Feb so you won't be on that step much longer! My husband suffers from SAD but there's more than that for you isn't there? All I can say is, we're here if you need a good moan.

Love from Flum

PS - don't bother with the elephant - the bits stick in your teeth!

[pipscariad]

Hayley - {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} from me too. I can't add much to the wise words above (isn't the Vine wonderful?), but I do hope that things seem brighter once the sun starts to feel warm on your back and the primroses show us their faces. This is the hardest part of the year, as many have said, so don't despair too much and don't beat yourself up about feeling low - as someone said, it happens to us all at times. It's good that you can get it off your chest. I'm rambling now, so I'll stop, but we're thinking off you and wishing you well.
x

[Glutton4...]

...Give a horse a good groom and cuddle. If nothing else, you'll be distracted by the filth and grime. For maximum enjoyment, visit the house of someone you don't like afterwards, and shed on their carpet..

ROFL - Now that's the spirit!

...The sun didn't go down until 4:30 last night - that's whole hour and a bit later than only 4 weeks ago. It will soon be spring, and you'll be bouncing out of bed again with plans to make and people to see. Just stick with it...

Yup - It's sooooo much lighter in the evenings already!

oooooooo i like grovelling ...... anyway, i gave her a slinky ..... what more could a girl on the norty step need?? ..... i even gave her a bucket
big hugsssssssss and snogsssss and stuff, and i think you can come off the norty step later ....... after you've done a bit more grovelling of course xxxxx

As far as I'm concerned, you can come off the norty step now. You can keep the cushion too lol

Dunno what else to say. My Sister suffers from SAD - so she moved to Spain - a bit drastic, hey!

Chin up Hon.X

[HeyWayne]

Jeannine and I do it every January when winter seems neverending.

So should we expect another Grapevine arrival in about 9 months?

[allotmentlady]

Awwww Hayley ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))), sorry to hear your feeling a bit low,,,,,,try not to think too much about the negative, think of the positive.....

your animals love you very much and eagerly await to hear your footsteps every morning....

you have worked so hard and WILL achieve your goals through your studies...

this year is GOING to be a better growing season, providing you with organic fresh veges/fruit, which will sell and bring in a bit more money.

you have us, your friends on the vine........

If your struggling for a bit of cash, why not have a clear out at home and sell what you dont want at a car boot or on ebay?

Life seems pretty carp but it wont always be like that.

Love Moxxx aka allotmentlady

[SueA]

Sorry you're feeling so low Hayley & things seem bad at the moment but you will get through it & there will be light at the end of the tunnel! Carry on with your studies & give yourself a target of something to achieve each day, you'll feel better if you keep occupied & try & get out in the garden for some fresh air & exercise. Chin up chuck!

[Stacey Steve]

All in all I've had a good life, not the high life a lot of people need, modest but good.

However about 5 years ago my life started to unravel and every time I started climbing out of the hole, fate came along and gave me a good kicking and down I went again.

It has been a long hard struggle and at times I felt as if didn't really want to play this game anymore.

But I'm still here, I've got a sense of humour (warped maybe, different definitely), my son is doing well thank you, after losing direction a bit. Daughter has been through the mincer and we have largely worked our way through.

Life is uncertain and you can never know what's round the corner but just keep plugging away. As said above deal with things in small bits but never ever give up.

Maureen, what size freezer have you got? And you do know they are an endangered species!

[moggssue]

Ohhh Hayley, another big [[[[[[[hug]]]]]]]] for you. I suffer from SAD, but you have more issues than that going on at the mo dont you.

I can only echo all the things already said, I try to take heed of them myself through Jan and Feb and to practice positive thinking even though sometimes it seems impossible. Just keep plodding along, the best is yet to come. xxxxxx

[Irie Jan]

Hi Hayley!

Things have a funny habit of working themselves out! I'm sure you will come out on top in the end! This time of year can be a let down at the best of times; all the hype of Christmas is over and bang the reality of another year kicks in!

I'm not looking forward to this weekend! Saturday will go all too fast no chance to rest! I have things to do around the house and a bit of food shopping. The moggies food needs stocking up as well; they have eaten me out of house and home this month! Spring must be on the way with them eating more and their more active! I need to pack an overnight bag as well.

Sunday afternoon I will be on and off the trains probably travelling for about 2 & 1/2 to 3 hours got to go into London then out again, to get where I have to go! I'm going to Stafford for my Aunts funeral on Monday morning then back home that evening and back into work on Tuesday! Bu**er! Sulk, sulk.

Sending you some {{{{BIG HUGS}}}} Hayley Hope you feel better soon!
Try to have a good weekend.

[miffy]

Sorry you are feeling so pants hayley, i am sure that something good will happen soon, you are doing so well with your course try to finish if you can, i was in a similar position in that i was on line to take on my school as head and then the county decided to close the school, felt my whole world was falling apart. It has taken me 9 months to put it into perspective and i have taken a different route now. I know you may not be able to see it at the moment but it will get better. Take Care

[HayleyB]

Thanks peeps, I love this place and it's great to have such good 'virtual' friends.

I could never eat an elephant - not a whole one anyway but great idea. Wayne I have a fear of heights so I'll pass on the shoulders

At least I'm not hungry, Lynda gave me a sausage roll

[bramble]

Be assured you are in my thoughts and prayers. Have gone through some tough times myself but somehow or other have come out the other end even though at the time I did'nt think I would.
All I can say is, time is a great healer and maybe this time next year you will look back and see you are a stronger person for what you have been through.

[tricky]

cheer up Hayley , have you got any seedlings growing on your windowsill
There is some great advice on this thread and i hope you get through your problems with your inlaws
We are living in hard times at the mo and it reminds me of when i met my wife 20 years ago , we struggled like hell then and things got eventually better.
Maureen said some great words bringing a tear to my eyes .
Keep doing a bit more each day and you will eventually win
Please keep up your studies and gain strength
lots of hugs tricky