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    I know there are folk with far more troubles than I, and that people are dealing with far greater issues than this, but I feel really down.

    As some of you will know, I have been offered another job - which I have accepted in principal.

    I wrote my letter of resignation yesterday and have been stewing since then about handing it in. I'd worked out that I'd get in early to cause as little fuss (big open plan office, with my bosses office in the middle), sit down and tell it to him gently. However, when I got here he was already in another meeting (not in his diary). I knew he had another meeting scheduled to deal with another HR issue planned for 9am, so I waited until that had finished.

    Then he made like he was leaving the office - so I checked to see if he'd be back in later. He wasn't, so on account that I am only in for a half day tomorrow I said that I needed to talk to him, and that I had a letter to give him.

    He looked devastated - I have never seen him look this way.

    My heart was racing, and I was shaking.

    He started to flap about - trying to find business cards for his meeting, stuttering and it was all very uneasy. It's not how I wanted it to go.

    I asked if he wanted the letter and he asked that I keep it - let him digest it, and talk about it in the morning to see what we can do. He also asked that I keep it to myself (which I would do of course!), and he acknowledges that I have given him notice today, but wants to talk about it - which is fair enough.

    I feel terrible. I knew I wasn't going to enjoy it, but this is worse than I imagined.

    When I was being interviewed by him he stated that he doesn't believe in talking people round, that when decisions such as this are made - often the person's mind is made up (which mine is). This makes it even harder.

    Part of me wishes I'd waited until tomorrow - but I didn't want to do the cowardly thing and do it as I ran out the door for the weekend.

    Anyone gimme a squish to tide me over until I get home?
    A simple dude trying to grow veg. http://haywayne.blogspot.com/

    BLOG UPDATED! http://haywayne.blogspot.com/2012/01...ar-demand.html 30/01/2012

    Practise makes us a little better, it doesn't make us perfect.


    What would Vedder do?

  • #2
    Hope this helps HW
    Location....East Midlands.

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    • #3
      Aww Wayne have a big squish from me. Things will work out ok, nice that you are so highly thought of though
      Last edited by CaroltheCarrot; 11-08-2011, 10:05 AM. Reason: no specs=cant spell

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      • #4
        *squish*

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        • #5
          Awwww hun, It will all be ok in the end.


          Pwomiss x
          Little ol' me

          Has just bagged a Lottie!
          Oh and the chickens are taking over my garden!
          FIL and MIL - http://vegblogs.co.uk/chubbly/

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          • #6
            A gentle friendly pat on the arm from me - I don't know you well enough for a full body hug.

            However I will add a comment, because I can never resist talking (you should meet me in real life!) - it's a job. This is WORK. This is your bosses WORK. It isn't life, it isn't the important things, it isn't the important people - this is what you do to fund the stuff you love - and it's what he/she does to fund the stuff they love.

            It may be hard to replace you, it may cause your boss extra chores to advertise and work it out - but it's their job, it's what they do (or the HR dept do).

            There is a lovely quote from a book I've read over and over on parenting and it's this 'no father ever said on his death bed 'I wish I'd spent more time at the office'.

            Your boss will be fine.

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            • #7
              Don't feel bad HW - he would not have had the same consideration for you if the situation had been reversed. Anyhow...

              * fetches step ladder.

              Whooops - now what are the dogs getting up to?

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              • #8
                Oh, alright - come 'ere Big man
                * gives Wayne's knees a hooge hug!

                It's always very hard to leave a job that you have enjoyed doing but sometimes it has to be. I expect that he'll be much better composed at your next meeting - it has probably come as a bit of a surprise out of the blue. Don't feel bad, it'll all be better in the morning
                A garden is a lovesome thing, God wot! (Thomas Edward Brown)

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                • #9
                  He would do the same if the situation move was right for him. Don't feel bad! I put mine in by email at 4:59pm on a Friday BY EMAIL
                  My colleague did the same - our boss was a monster. We pulled our landlines out, switched our company mobiles off, PC shut down as quick as stupid windows operates and called each other on our personal mobiles whilst giggling hysterically. We both had a lot of alcohol that weekend. My friend called in sick Monday morning leaving me with the fall out. Looking back it was the best decision ever made. Working for a large Corp is not always best - remember that.
                  Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better...Albert Einstein

                  Blog - @Twotheridge: For The Record - Sowing and Growing with a Virgin Veg Grower: Spring Has Now Sprung...Boing! http://vvgsowingandgrowing2012.blogs....html?spref=tw

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                  • #10
                    Big hugs from me Wayne, although like Scarey and Jean I need a ladder.

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                    • #11
                      Wayne, you can have a manly hug, strictly supportive [[[[[[[[[[[[[[wayne]]]]]]]]]]]. Mind you I suspect this is just a ruse to have the forum females frolic(like the alliteration?) around you

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Corris View Post
                        There is a lovely quote from a book I've read over and over on parenting and it's this 'no father ever said on his death bed 'I wish I'd spent more time at the office'.
                        Perfect - that about sums me up!

                        Thanks guys - and gals.
                        A simple dude trying to grow veg. http://haywayne.blogspot.com/

                        BLOG UPDATED! http://haywayne.blogspot.com/2012/01...ar-demand.html 30/01/2012

                        Practise makes us a little better, it doesn't make us perfect.


                        What would Vedder do?

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                        • #13
                          You silly soft old bugger.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Aberdeenplotter View Post
                            Mind you I suspect this is just a ruse to have the forum females frolic(like the alliteration?) around you
                            Busted!......
                            A simple dude trying to grow veg. http://haywayne.blogspot.com/

                            BLOG UPDATED! http://haywayne.blogspot.com/2012/01...ar-demand.html 30/01/2012

                            Practise makes us a little better, it doesn't make us perfect.


                            What would Vedder do?

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by zazen999 View Post
                              You silly soft old bugger.
                              You know me so well (keep the old bit to yourself though - I have a rep to protect)
                              A simple dude trying to grow veg. http://haywayne.blogspot.com/

                              BLOG UPDATED! http://haywayne.blogspot.com/2012/01...ar-demand.html 30/01/2012

                              Practise makes us a little better, it doesn't make us perfect.


                              What would Vedder do?

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