How good are you at taking compliments?

[HeyWayne]

Work on it though, HW - people do want to tell you you're great/do a good job/are a great dad/hold down a lottie against all the odds/make people laugh and much, much more...

Sorry - when did we jump from gentle "kind comments" to full blown charm offensive, blush enducing, compliment tirade?

Told you I was rubbish at studying, it seems I've missed out on several modules already!

[SarzWix]

I used to be terrible at receiving compliments too Like Fi, I'm working on it

I do think upbringing probably has something to do with it - if you aren't used to being told when you did something well it's so much harder when you get older I think. I'm not sure I've done enough with/for my kids in that direction, but again, I'm working on it.

[Hazel at the Hill]

I think I'm just more comfortable being a giver than receiver. Is that so bad?

Then long may you continue to compliment, and long may the recipients get a warm glow when you do so.

Work on it though, HW - people do want to tell you you're great/do a good job/are a great dad/hold down a lottie against all the odds/make people laugh and much, much more...

[HeyWayne]

That is why you just say 'thank you'.

Advanced users can go for 'thank you, that's kind', 'thank you, that's much appreciated' or 'thank you, I'm flattered' and smile.

A straight 'thank you' doesn't convey conceit - it's just two words. That is, unless you do smug grin or uriah heep 'ever so 'umble' hands at the same time....

I think I'm just more comfortable being a giver than receiver. Is that so bad?

[Hazel at the Hill]

On the flip-side, I'm great at giving compliments.

My fear is sounding conceited when saying thank you - I'm not very good at grateful projection. In my humble onion.

That is why you just say 'thank you'.

Advanced users can go for 'thank you, that's kind', 'thank you, that's much appreciated' or 'thank you, I'm flattered' and smile.

A straight 'thank you' doesn't convey conceit - it's just two words. That is, unless you do smug grin or uriah heep 'ever so 'umble' hands at the same time....

[Pumpkin Becki]

I'm not very good at grateful projection.

Isn't that what they do in the theatre luvvie?

[HeyWayne]

I had a Tena lady once, but to be honest I was hoping to get more for my money.

[HeyWayne]

On the flip-side, I'm great at giving compliments.

My fear is sounding conceited when saying thank you - I'm not very good at grateful projection. In my humble onion.

[Hazel at the Hill]

I'm glad, thanks Hazel

There you go - easy ain't it!

[Pumpkin Becki]

Now you see, that has just made me laugh!

I'm glad, thanks Hazel

[piskieinboots]

... a place for a bloody good bitch too!

who is she - PM me if you prefer

[zazen999]

Rhona, there are 2 of us, I didnt know what it was either.

I'm rubbish at taking them,

To be fair; you're not supposed to 'take' them, you're supposed to wear them.



Apparently. I wouldn't know of course....

[Hazel at the Hill]

Can you break us in gently with a 'kind comments' thread first?

Now you see, that has just made me laugh!

Abso flamin lutely. I am trying to just say thankyou, but its hard

Bite tongue, walk away or change subject. Remember the compliment and cherish it for later.

Giving compliments is a Good Thing as it makes you look for the positive & makes the world a happier place.

Mind you, there is still a place for a bloody good bitch too!

[Hazel at the Hill]

To be fair, I am also pretty rubbish at giving them as well.

Next lesson will be 'how to give an compliment!'

It's an advanced lesson - because it must be sincere (or you just look a bit creepy) and depending on the people round you, it can be quite difficult to see something of merit in others!

If in doubt (girls) you can always say 'oh - I do like your earrings/necklace/shoes' to other girls because you probably do, and you chaps can always do the lads compliment to other lads of 'nice one!' in response to almost anything.

[FionaH]

Then today's lesson is
1) listen to compliment
2) say 'thank you' and smile
3) say nothing else - or you will be tempted to justify/dispute/belittle the compliment
4)scuttle off if you must, and go very red, but also feel a glow of satisfaction - the compliment is supposed to make you FEEL GOOD

Abso flamin lutely. I am trying to just say thankyou, but its hard