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    I heard this today from someone I know
    A child was adopted at birth and now the adoptive parents have had their own child they no longer want the adopted child, The child is now of primary school age and is with foster parents. How awful is this. you go into adoption I would have thought with eyes open and if you are luckily enough to then have your own you should have thought about the what IF first. I feel so sad for the child involved, but having met the child I am sure the child will be ok, a bright well behaved and a credit to anyone. I wish I could have the child.

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    how awful, insensitive, i will refrain from saying what i really think but probably the same as most peeps who read this post.......
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    I was totally gobsmacked when I met foster parent and child ,friend of friend etc, I wont say what I thought about the situation I might get banned. I wont reveal any details of child for reasons one can understand. Child seems to be taking it all in stride, settled in really well only been with foster parents less than a week has been accepted in local school just has to go for visits before starting proper, thing is child will be uprooted again nobody knows when could be weeks months or longer. Came with loads of clothes.

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    This story is really bizzare. There must be more to it - if that child was adopted at birth then it would be 'their' child, they would love it as their own... I know sometimes one can favour one child over another but not to the extent that you would 'send the adopted one back' No... Adopted children often come with lots of trauma. It must be that this child was born with big issues, possibly inherited mental health problems and the parents have been unable to keep themselves, their pets and perhaps even the new baby, safe. And it takes a lot for Social Services to accept a family disruption - its not just a case of saying 'we don't want her anymore' - you have to work with therapists and mental health proffessionals at the highest level in order for them to see that to keep that child would physically endanger others in the family. It must have been awful for the parents to have to let her go.
    And as for that Foster Carer actually telling you what happened is very unprofessional (not wonder they get a bad name from some quarters) - she's not even your friend; just a 'friend of a friend'; confidentiallity if extremely important in their role, that poor childs very unfortunate business has now been bandied about on an 'open forum'. She is no credit to her proffession.

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    I know nothing about the adoption process, but can the adoptive parents do that? Just change their mind? In theory does that mean the birth parents could change their mind after that amount of time too?! I don't understand!! I thought that adoption was final, after the "cooling off" period - I know that's not the right term, but you get what I mean.
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    Quote Originally Posted by allotmentlady View Post
    how awful, insensitive, i will refrain from saying what i really think but probably the same as most peeps who read this post.......
    Quite. No comment except to say a child is not a commodity to give pleasure to adults. That is a by-product.
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    There is nothing wrong with the child The adoptive parents decided they couldnt cope with two children I have met the child, what happens if the parents have another child of their own will they decide they dont want their first born.

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