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    At my sister's house on Saturday for a barbecue, and noticed a little sparrow just sat by the garage on the lawn.

    Turns out it had flown into one of their new windows (where a patio door used to be) and was clearly injured. They were trying to nurse it by giving it a box and some water, but it wasn't taking the water and just seemed 'happy' sitting on the lawn, or moving about just by walking.

    At one point it ventured over and sat by LadyWayne (who was sat on the grass with Bean). Bean took a keen interest - but we had to keep him away for obvious reasons.

    Anyway - it was sat on the lawn, in full sun and then just sat there with it's mouth open - basking. I decided it was probably thirsty so took the water to it and realised why it hadn't been drinking - the lip of the water bowl was too high for it to get at the water. So I, a 6ft 7, 18 st lump of a thing crouched down and hand 'fed' this little sparrow the water. Everyone was mightily impressed at my bird nursing skills.

    Little bird then tucked his head into his wing and had 40 winks.

    I moved a small table over so that the little bird was shaded and he seemed happy.

    A little while later I was getting some food and heard a scream.

    Bean, demonstrating his newly found walking skills had trodden on the little bird and it was flapping on the grass in some distress (as were a couple of the ladies present).

    I will admit that I'm not the big manly kinda dude that can dispatch an animal at the drop of a hat (and I have never had to do it in the past), but as it was my son that had caused the bird pain I felt compelled, so grabbed a napkin and gently picked up the little bird which suddenly calmed down.

    I took the bird out of the garden away from view and this bit still haunts me.

    I couldn't do the 'twist of the neck thing' or hit it with a large stone - I started to wonder just what I was going to to.

    Then, I saw a wheelie bin and looked inside - it was empty.

    I feel awful just typing this (daft innit). I threw the little bird as hard as I could into the bottom of the bin - it stopped moving immediately.

    What a cowardly way to kill an innocent little bird - I know.

    Just wish I was stronger and able to put it out of its misery quicker and perhaps cleaner, but I didn't know what to do, but knew I had to do something.
    A simple dude trying to grow veg. http://haywayne.blogspot.com/

    BLOG UPDATED! http://haywayne.blogspot.com/2012/01...ar-demand.html 30/01/2012

    Practise makes us a little better, it doesn't make us perfect.


    What would Vedder do?

  • #2
    Blimey Wayne, I think we all (instinctively) know the 'right' way to dispatch an injured bird, but faced with the reality, how many of us could actually do it. The outcome was the right one, even if your methodology wasn't by-the-book. Its a shame it had to be done, but at least you stood up and did something quickly to put the bird out of its pain - thats the important bit.

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    • #3
      I so wanted to do it right - but I was fearful of crushing it, or pulling it's head clean off.

      Horrible, horrible, horrible.
      A simple dude trying to grow veg. http://haywayne.blogspot.com/

      BLOG UPDATED! http://haywayne.blogspot.com/2012/01...ar-demand.html 30/01/2012

      Practise makes us a little better, it doesn't make us perfect.


      What would Vedder do?

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      • #4
        Awww, Wayne that's terrible. Having a cat as a pet I've had to dispatch my share of birds and it's not a thing I take lightly, so I know how you feel I can still remember the first time and it haunt's me still.
        By what you have said I don't think there was a lot you could have done to save the bird, at least you didn't let it suffer you really did do the kindest thing for it...try not to beat yourself up, I'm sure there's peep's on here that couldn't even have dispatched the bird the way you did. (((((((((BIG HUG'S)))))))) are sent for you...and bean it must have been a shock for him as well. xx

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        • #5
          Well, personally Wayne, I'd rather meet one person like you than a hundred who would have dispatched said sparrow without a second thought. You did the right thing, but had compassion enough to think of the final act.
          "We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses."-- Abraham Lincoln

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          • #6
            It will probably take some time for this incident to fade from your mind Heywayne. Despite your size and strength you are obviously still a soft hearted little boy. Well done for taking charge and minimizing the anguish of the spectators.

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            • #7
              You did better than I did Wayne.

              One of our cats has discovered a sparrow's nest and brought home a chick. We had the same problem last week, with an older sparrow fledgling, and my DD was able to get him to the sanctuary where she works and he's doing well.

              However, the latest victim had a burst eyeball (turned my stomach) and, although very quiet, was obviously in great pain. Eye injuries in tiny birds can't be sorted so we had to dispatch him and do it quickly.

              I'm a total coward, so the job fell to my daughter (feel a bit ashamed about that) The Daughter ummed & ahhed over the best way to do the deed - she can cope with rabbits and baby bunnies but this was different, I don't know why - anyway, she did dispatch him quickly and cleanly and he ended up being lunch for her hawk (something else that makes me squirm even though I understand food chains)

              Sometimes, being a grown up isn't all it's cracked up to be! The DD is a grown up at 20, but I feel ashamed that I asked my child to do this awful job rather than doing it myself. In mitigation, she has had more practice being a falconer....that's my excuse anyways.

              Don't be too hard on yourself, the little bird isn't suffering any more.

              Jules
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              • #8
                You had to put the wee bird out of it's pain. The alternative is unthinkable. Well done you.

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                • #9
                  You can't help but feel bad- you needed to 'terminate' a life.
                  Doesn't matter what it was- it was still a life- and yes-you did the right thing.

                  Not easy I know- my cat 3/4 killed a baby blackbird many years ago- I felt responsible- and nope couldn't wring/pull/snap it's neck either.
                  I gently placed a flat stone over its head ...and ran at it , treading heavily on the stone.
                  Did the trick.
                  Did I fell bad?
                  yes...BUT it needed to be done.

                  You know- your bird may well have had internal injuries anyway- so you just helped it along- and yes I agree with Bren- it shows you have a tender heart. xx
                  "Nicos, Queen of Gooooogle" and... GYO's own Miss Marple

                  Location....Normandy France

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                  • #10
                    {{{{x}}}}Wayne....you shouldn't feel bad,you put it out of it's misery in the best way you could.

                    One of our last chicks hatched all odd and all its insides were outside.Although it was breathing it was pretty obvious it wasn't going to live and more than likely in a bit of discomfort,so I knew it had to be put out of it's misery.
                    Andi had 'taken his turn' by dispatching of some of the cocks we'd reared so it was my turn...I held it in my hand,not having a clue what to do(even though I've read plenty on how)....it was a bitterly cold night and there was a washing up bowl full of icy cold water....it took seconds but I still feel carp about it
                    the fates lead him who will;him who won't they drag.

                    Happiness is not having what you want,but wanting what you have.xx

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                    • #11
                      I don't know how you lot keep chickedoodles with the thought that you'll have to do it one day.
                      A simple dude trying to grow veg. http://haywayne.blogspot.com/

                      BLOG UPDATED! http://haywayne.blogspot.com/2012/01...ar-demand.html 30/01/2012

                      Practise makes us a little better, it doesn't make us perfect.


                      What would Vedder do?

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by HeyWayne View Post
                        I don't know how you lot keep chickedoodles with the thought that you'll have to do it one day.
                        I think there is a huge difference between rearing for meat, and finding an animal that needs help to be free.

                        My OH and I slaughtered all our turkeys at Christmas, but found it hard to despatch a bird a local cat had played with and left in our garden.

                        It's never a nice thing to do, even when it's a planned thing.

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                        • #13
                          Dude you did the right thing to end its suffering, rather than let it continue.
                          The actual "right" way is debatable, but to do it quickly rather than prolonging the pain is, imho, the best way, which is what you did.
                          Not at all a cowards way out, some folks can some folks cant, you did the right thing by the little sparra.
                          Bob Leponge
                          Life's disappointments are so much harder to take if you don't know any swear words.

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                          • #14
                            Oh you poor thing. I agree that you DID do the right thing by putting it out of it's misery quickly, even if not 'gracefully.'

                            We used to raise chickens and we were used to my father slaughtering a few. I don't think I could easily do it myself though.

                            On a similar-ish note, a few years ago (young and stupid is my defence here), I bought a live crab from the Chinese supermarket, got it home, and couldn't face killing it (I have no idea what I was thinking), even though I have watched others kill lobsters etc. then eaten them. I was totally at a loss as to what I should do, and so I 'released it back into the wild' ie. I put it in the back garden. The crab scrabbled around for a short while, whilst I probably googled 'keeping crab as pet;' then my brother in law popped round, had a good deal more common sense than me, and killed it.

                            I felt dreadful about having probably made it suffer though by making it run around a Sheffield back yard for however long, and knowing that I hadn't done the 'right' thing.


                            You wouldn't feel good no matter WHICH method you used to kill it. I do understand why you're upset by it - but it would probably have been upsetting no matter what.
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                            • #15
                              As long as you put it out of its misery quickly, you've got nothing to feel terrible about.

                              The proper way to kill a small bird, according to a gamekeeper friend of mine is to hold it in your hand facing forward and crush its skull with your thumb. I know this because I had a similar dilemma with an injured pigeon and pulled its head off while dispatching it...........which did the trick, but was a bit ghoulish!
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