Found out yesterday that my BIL didnt know where my niece was for four days. She was with friends and within a sort of school enviroment as students were over from Austria which is where she was when her mum died.
I have spoken to my other sister and have offered to have my niece live with us during the summer holidays to give them both some space, I cant stand by and let her suffer at the hands of her father anymore, whilst he doesnt harm her, he undermines everything she does and critices her all the time.
He wants her to be grown up and be able to do everything overnight without teaching her.
I know he will see this as a time that he will be able to spend longer in the pub and not have to think or worry about her, but I owe it to my sister to protect her daughter.
I will not let anything happen to her, she needs a loving stable enviroment where she can grow in maturatiy.
My sister is seeing the councillor with my BIL next week and I have told her to ask who does he think is responsible for his daughters well being, as he has said he washes his hands of her as she wont do anything and he gives up.
What sort of message does that give a thirteen year old child.
He makes my blood boil and if you note the time of writing this its 5am I cant sleep.
If after the summer holidays she wishes to stay then that will be fine with me.
Sorry for the rant .