What a difficult situation! This is the parents problem. No one thinks it acceptable if a puppy runs amok, it is accepted that the puppy must learn manners. The same holds good for children - including my own! - These children need guidelines and rules.

If I found my kids damaging other peoples gear or veg on their rare visits to the grandparents plot they would have hell to pay! Some form of restitution would be in order as decided by the 'victim', pocket money for the glass, a spell of weeding or watering. Something which is of use to the injured party and rubs home the problem they have caused. That is also might teach them something is a useful bonus!


Oh yeah - if they go on about the kids 'rights' to able to go where they choose - remind them that 'rights' have no legal definition! The correct terms are duties and privileges - for any privilege there is a duty - in this case a duty of care and respect for others.

Terry